What is control?? Control is a verb, an action word. Its meaning as described at Dictionary.com is to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command. This is life, and alot of what life consists of. Parents controlling thier kids, bosses controlling thier workers, the government controlling many aspects of our lives, and the list goes on. Control, when used in a positive manner can be a good and protective action, especially when it is motivated by love.
When you take a view of your life, you can see how even you take control over certain things. Pets, finances, the color scheme of your home or even your looks.
Control is a very powerful thing. I was once told by someone very wise, "He/She that angers you controls you." This can be said of every situation in our lives. It has been proven that control and power go hand in hand. Once a person realizes that they have control over someone, this gives them a sense of power over that person. That power can be used for good in such cases as Law Enforcement, Prisons, Rehabilitation centers, The Military and so on.
When one finds that the power they now have makes them feel like "nothing" can stop them, is when it becomes dangerous.
Take a husband who finds that his wife is fairly submissive and somewhat eager to please. A husband who is very strong willed, and feels like he "has the authority" to make the wife do what ever he wants. Then one day the wife decides she is tired of being bossed around....What happens??...in many cases this leads to some form of abuse, whether it is verbal, physical or psychological.
Right now, I am having control issues. The husband is not abusive, but is enjoying being controlling over money. Why should I have to go without certain things, and he is able to get whatever he needs?
I guess a job is in order. Hoping that I get the one that I have been hoping for.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Monday, December 28, 2009
Remembering when...
I was sitting here today watching the snow come down, and dancing around the yard as the wind pushed the flakes on thier own predestined course, and realized it's been 11 years since the blizzard of '78. Those were the years...the years of adolesence, high school, and the only responsibilities we really had was to clean our room & learn.
It was days of discovery and exploration, as we did when it was safe to go outside. Life was simpler back then. Was life perfect...????...of course not. I have yet to see anyone who has or have had a perfect life. When we are in the midst of our own storm, looking at another's life may appear to be perfect, but once you are inside that other person's life, you see perfection does not live there either.
To remember those years makes me wonder why I was in such a rush to grow up. I guess we always think it will be better when we are old enough to make our own decisions, but if you have not paid attention to what you have been taught, the decisions you make could be the wrong ones.
There are really not too many things that I regret, because at the time, they were the things I "wanted" to do. There are, however, things I wish I could undo, take back, or even waited a bit later in life to do. I won't name those things right now, because they are really of no importance for this writing.
I will say that every word spoken, and every action taken will ALWAYS affect a person's future. Sometimes it is the immediate future or a little later. Then there are those things that we speak and do that can affect our future much later down the road. Use caution, advance slowly and always think of the outcome you would like to have out of an action or words spoken.
"Positive thoughts and actions bring about positive reactions. Negative thoughts and actions bring about negative reactions."
What kind of actions are you looking for in life?
It was days of discovery and exploration, as we did when it was safe to go outside. Life was simpler back then. Was life perfect...????...of course not. I have yet to see anyone who has or have had a perfect life. When we are in the midst of our own storm, looking at another's life may appear to be perfect, but once you are inside that other person's life, you see perfection does not live there either.
To remember those years makes me wonder why I was in such a rush to grow up. I guess we always think it will be better when we are old enough to make our own decisions, but if you have not paid attention to what you have been taught, the decisions you make could be the wrong ones.
There are really not too many things that I regret, because at the time, they were the things I "wanted" to do. There are, however, things I wish I could undo, take back, or even waited a bit later in life to do. I won't name those things right now, because they are really of no importance for this writing.
I will say that every word spoken, and every action taken will ALWAYS affect a person's future. Sometimes it is the immediate future or a little later. Then there are those things that we speak and do that can affect our future much later down the road. Use caution, advance slowly and always think of the outcome you would like to have out of an action or words spoken.
"Positive thoughts and actions bring about positive reactions. Negative thoughts and actions bring about negative reactions."
What kind of actions are you looking for in life?
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Teenagers & Hearts
You know, a very wise woman once told me that I would raise these 2 step kids, and once they hit the teen years, that they would turn around and break my heart, crap all over me and forget all that I had done for them. I told her..."no way, that isn't going to happen to me." Well, it has happened. I am nothing to them. No matter how much love and guidance I have tried to give them, it doesn't matter. Thier mom waltzes back into thier lives off and on, and now she is mother of the year???
Where was she when these kids were hurting...all the nightmares, plays, drs. appointments, parent-teacher conferences and so on? Where was she...???...off building HER life and career, never putting the kids first. Now all of a sudden she wants to glide right in, and have the kids. She puts so much importance on money, money, money, that the kids think that this is the one important thing in life.
As I sit here with a broken heart, feeling like I have been betrayed and stabbed in the back, and then my heart ripped out and stomped on all over the floor, I do know that Vengence is Mine says the Lord.
I have done nothing wrong, and yet they make me feel like I am the worst person in the world.
Good luck to her is what I say.
Where was she when these kids were hurting...all the nightmares, plays, drs. appointments, parent-teacher conferences and so on? Where was she...???...off building HER life and career, never putting the kids first. Now all of a sudden she wants to glide right in, and have the kids. She puts so much importance on money, money, money, that the kids think that this is the one important thing in life.
As I sit here with a broken heart, feeling like I have been betrayed and stabbed in the back, and then my heart ripped out and stomped on all over the floor, I do know that Vengence is Mine says the Lord.
I have done nothing wrong, and yet they make me feel like I am the worst person in the world.
Good luck to her is what I say.
Health
Well, here it is early Sunday afternoon, and we missed church. Didn't just miss, but I woke up feeling really bad. Headache, cramps, bloating and so on. I am sure that I don't have to go into great explanation as to what it ailing me.
There are many times I find myself enraged because Eve just had to have that apple, and even let Satan trick her into thinking it was ok. Was she just not listening when God said no??? I think Adam should have been a bit more clear on the riles that god had set forth before Eve was even made.
Regardless, here I sit, basking in the curse, and dealing with it.
There are many times I find myself enraged because Eve just had to have that apple, and even let Satan trick her into thinking it was ok. Was she just not listening when God said no??? I think Adam should have been a bit more clear on the riles that god had set forth before Eve was even made.
Regardless, here I sit, basking in the curse, and dealing with it.
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Charles Manson & Linda Kasabian
I just got done watching "Manson" on the History channel. I was a little over 4 years old when the Tate/LaBianca murders took place. It seemed like for days, weeks even months that is all that was heard on the tv, radio, news papers and it was all that anyone was talking about.
Charles Manson is a person that truly makes me believe that demons DO possess and influence people. It is not a normal person that could ever instruct or influence others to commit such heinous acts upon another human being. Drugs can't take the blame. Now don't get me wrong, I in NO WAY INDORSE OR AGREE WITH THE DISTRIBUTION OR USE OF DRUGS UNLESS PRESCRIBED BY A LISCENSED DOCTOR.
I feel that Manson took advantage of young people who were looking for ways of fitting in, during a time of "open love", war and many other things that marked that era. Psycadelic drugs were claimed to be something, or a vessel used to "find one's inner self", thier power, and ablility to "love" those around them, or at least as the song went, "...if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with."
Below I have pasted a summary as posted on a web page about Linda Kasabian, and her broken 40 year silence about the murders, and her time on Spahn Ranch with Manson and "The Family".
Courtesy of Robin McKie
Charles Manson follower ends her silence 40 years after night of slaughterThe 1960s, the decade of love, came to an abrubt and bloody end when Charles Manson's 'family' murdered actress Sharon Tate and her friends. Now, accomplice Linda Kasabian, tells the full story of that awful night for the first time, reports Robin McKie
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Robin McKie The Observer, Sunday 2 August 2009 Article historyThey were the murders that ended the 1960s, the decade of love, in a bloodbath that shocked the world. Now, on the 40th anniversary of the killing of Hollywood actress Sharon Tate and her friends by Charles Manson's "Family", the gang member whose testimony convicted the killers has revealed for the first time her full involvement in the crimes.
On the night of 9 August 1969, Linda Kasabian was sent by Manson with three other members of his Family - Tex Watson, Susan Atkins and Patricia "Katie" Krenwinkel - to break into Tate's home. There they tied up the actress and her friends and stabbed them to death. Kasabian acted as look-out.
Tate was married to the film director Roman Polanski and was eight months' pregnant. In the interview with Kasabian, to be screened in the docu-drama Manson on Channel Five next week, she tells how Tate pleaded in vain for the life of her unborn child. She was stabbed 16 times. Her killers wrote the word "pig" in her blood on the wall of her house.
"I saw a woman in a white dress and she had blood all over her and she was screaming and she was calling for her mom. I saw Katie stabbing her," says Kasabian, who is now 60. "I thought about going to a house where there were lights down the road and then I said, 'No, don't do that, because they'll find me and kill all those people'. So I went down the hill and I got into the car and I just stayed there and waited."
The killings horrified America and the rest of the world and the subject has continued to fascinate ever since. It is not hard to see why. Manson's strange, hypnotic hold over his followers turned a group of peaceful hippies living in a commune into a group of merciless killers. In addition, the case involved a range of celebrity names including the Beatles, the Beach Boys, and record producer Terry Melcher, the son of Doris Day.
In the end, Manson was convicted of the murders of nine people, thanks to Kasabian who was the prosecution's star witness at his trial in 1970 - although he and his followers claimed they had, in fact, "offed" a total of 35 people whose bodies had been buried in the desert. It is a claim "that may be high, but could still be true", according to Vincent Bugliosi, the lawyer who prosecuted them.
"The Manson murders sounded the death knell for hippies and all they symbolically represented," Bugliosi told the Observer last week. "They closed an era. The 60s, the decade of love, ended on that night, on 9 August 1969."
Kasabian had been living in hiding, under an assumed name, since the trial. The documentary is her first full public interview since her appearance 20 years ago on an American cable chat show. "I could never accept the fact that I was not punished for my involvement," says Kasabian. "I felt then what I feel now, always and forever, that it was a waste of life that had no reason, no rhyme."
Kasabian was a 20-year-old hippy with a 16-month daughter in July 1969 when she met members of Manson's Family and was asked to join their commune at a dilapidated ranch known as Spahn's. There she met Manson, a 32-year-old racist who had already spent more than half his life in jail. About 20 people were living on the ranch, maintained by a life of petty crime and selling drugs.
"Manson - who was uneducated but highly intelligent - had this phenomenal ability to gain control over other people and get them to do terrible things," said Bugliosi. "Eventually he convinced them that he was the second coming: Christ and the Devil all wrapped up in the same person."
Armageddon was coming, Manson claimed as part of his racist, anti-establishment gospel that predicted a black uprising against the state. Once that was over, he and his followers would take over America. Manson named this insurrection Helter Skelter because he believed details of it were revealed in the song of the same name on the Beatles' White Album. "A typical day would be Charlie playing guitar, telling stories, dancing around just being free," Kasabian states in the documentary. In fact, Manson was a talented musician who had met Beach Boys drummer Dennis Wilson. The pair had recorded a few tracks, including one jointly written song "Never Learn Not to Love" that was subsequently recorded by the Beach Boys.
Manson also tried to set up a record contract with the producer Terry Melcher, but the deal had fallen through, a development that was to lead directly to the murders of Tate and her friends. Manson was angry with Melcher for not pursuing the deal and arrived at the latter's house at 10050 Cielo Drive to confront him. However, Melcher had moved on and the house was now occupied by Roman Polanski and Sharon Tate. Manson was told to leave.
"This residence - 10050 Cielo Drive - where Tate and Polanski now lived, came to symbolise the establishment to Charles Manson, particularly the establishment's rejection of him," said Bugliosi. By now, Manson's control over his Family was virtually total, and on 25 July he ordered three of them to go to the house of a drug-dealing acquaintance, Gary Hinman, to demand money. Hinman refused, so they stabbed him to death, using his blood to paint the words "political piggy" on the wall - a grim rehearsal for what would occur at Tate's house.
Then Manson ordered Kasabian, Watson, Atkins and Krenwinkel to drive to Cielo Drive. "I felt excited, special, chosen," recalls Kasabian. "When we arrived at the Tate residence there were lights on the outside, the driveway was lit up. Tex got a rope and wire cutters and cut the telephone wires. There was a car coming so we got down. Tex jumped out and shot the gun four times. He told me to take the wallet from the kid he had shot. I got in the car. There was this person slumped over. I didn't see any blood or anything but I knew he wasn't there."
The others went inside the house. Polanski was in Europe, but Tate was entertaining her friends Wojtek Frykowski, Abigail Folger and Jay Sebring. "You are all going to die," Watson told them after tying them with rope. There was a desperate fight in which all four victims were stabbed to death. A total of 102 wounds were inflicted. As they drove off, Kasabian took the weapons, wiped them clean and dropped them in a ravine.
The next day Manson sent his Family out again to kill and this time, at random, he selected the house of Leno and Rosemary LaBianca, wealthy owners of a chain of grocery stores. Manson broke in and tied them up. Then he left, ordering three of the Family to stab them to death. Manson was involved in at least one more murder - of an acquaintance known as "Shorty" Shea - before his arrest in October. However, it was for his instigation of the slaying of Tate and her friends that he will always be remembered.
"Some people point to the extreme brutality of the murders to explain our enduring interest, but you know we have had killings even more brutal in America,' said Bugliosi. "And yes, the victims were prominent people but they weren't that prominent. But what really gives the Tate killings such durability is the fact they are the most bizarre murders in the recorded annals of American crime. If they had been written as fiction no one would have read it. It would have seemed too far out. After all, the story has just about everything - Beatles lyrics spelled out in blood, quotes from the Bible, and nice kids from average families being persuaded to go on horrible killing sprees.
"The very name Manson has now become a metaphor for evil as a result. The name is synonymous with evil today. Mike Tyson, when he was applying for reinstatement of his boxing licence, admitted he was a bad guy but insisted 'I am not Charlie Manson'. Certainly Manson was different from all other mass murderers. He got others to do his work and he was intelligent and manipulative. Most deranged cult leaders end up getting their followers to commit suicide en masse. Manson got them to carry out mass murders. That is why we remember him."
How the hunt for Linda Kasabian led TV producers to a trailer park
Nick Godwin, the Cineflix executive producer responsible for making Manson, had only an assumed name to go on when his company began its search for Linda Kasabian. "We also had a vague area, somewhere in the west of America, in which she was said to be living," he told the Observer
So his team tracked down each woman with that name and ruled them out one by one - until they had a shortlist of two.
"One was a school librarian in California who was very surprised to be mistaken for an accessory to mass murder," said Godwin. The other was living in near-poverty in a trailer. Her details were checked out and fitted those of Linda Kasabian, but when contacted by the company she refused to cooperate. "None of her friends or neighbours knew about her dramatic past," said Godwin.
It took six months to establish a rapport and to get Linda to tell the story of the four weeks she lived with the Manson Family. Then she was shown a tape of the programme in which actors portray her and other gang members . "Linda had her entire extended family sitting in the trailer for the viewing. It was an emotional experience. Linda's daughter cried throughout the murder scene. But Linda said it accurately portrayed what happened."
She also had no idea that a British band had been named after her. So Cineflix gave her a CD by Kasabian to listen to. She was pleasantly surprised, said Godwin.
As to Linda's role in the conviction of Manson and the rest of his Family, the prosecutor at the trial, Vincent Bugliosi, is in no doubt. "She never asked for immunity from prosecution, but we gave it," he said. "She stood in the witness box for 17 or 18 days and never broke down, despite the incredible pressure she was under. I doubt we would have convicted Manson without her."
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2009/aug/02/charles-manson-linda-kasabian-polanski
Charles Manson is a person that truly makes me believe that demons DO possess and influence people. It is not a normal person that could ever instruct or influence others to commit such heinous acts upon another human being. Drugs can't take the blame. Now don't get me wrong, I in NO WAY INDORSE OR AGREE WITH THE DISTRIBUTION OR USE OF DRUGS UNLESS PRESCRIBED BY A LISCENSED DOCTOR.
I feel that Manson took advantage of young people who were looking for ways of fitting in, during a time of "open love", war and many other things that marked that era. Psycadelic drugs were claimed to be something, or a vessel used to "find one's inner self", thier power, and ablility to "love" those around them, or at least as the song went, "...if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with."
Below I have pasted a summary as posted on a web page about Linda Kasabian, and her broken 40 year silence about the murders, and her time on Spahn Ranch with Manson and "The Family".
Courtesy of Robin McKie
Charles Manson follower ends her silence 40 years after night of slaughterThe 1960s, the decade of love, came to an abrubt and bloody end when Charles Manson's 'family' murdered actress Sharon Tate and her friends. Now, accomplice Linda Kasabian, tells the full story of that awful night for the first time, reports Robin McKie
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Robin McKie The Observer, Sunday 2 August 2009 Article historyThey were the murders that ended the 1960s, the decade of love, in a bloodbath that shocked the world. Now, on the 40th anniversary of the killing of Hollywood actress Sharon Tate and her friends by Charles Manson's "Family", the gang member whose testimony convicted the killers has revealed for the first time her full involvement in the crimes.
On the night of 9 August 1969, Linda Kasabian was sent by Manson with three other members of his Family - Tex Watson, Susan Atkins and Patricia "Katie" Krenwinkel - to break into Tate's home. There they tied up the actress and her friends and stabbed them to death. Kasabian acted as look-out.
Tate was married to the film director Roman Polanski and was eight months' pregnant. In the interview with Kasabian, to be screened in the docu-drama Manson on Channel Five next week, she tells how Tate pleaded in vain for the life of her unborn child. She was stabbed 16 times. Her killers wrote the word "pig" in her blood on the wall of her house.
"I saw a woman in a white dress and she had blood all over her and she was screaming and she was calling for her mom. I saw Katie stabbing her," says Kasabian, who is now 60. "I thought about going to a house where there were lights down the road and then I said, 'No, don't do that, because they'll find me and kill all those people'. So I went down the hill and I got into the car and I just stayed there and waited."
The killings horrified America and the rest of the world and the subject has continued to fascinate ever since. It is not hard to see why. Manson's strange, hypnotic hold over his followers turned a group of peaceful hippies living in a commune into a group of merciless killers. In addition, the case involved a range of celebrity names including the Beatles, the Beach Boys, and record producer Terry Melcher, the son of Doris Day.
In the end, Manson was convicted of the murders of nine people, thanks to Kasabian who was the prosecution's star witness at his trial in 1970 - although he and his followers claimed they had, in fact, "offed" a total of 35 people whose bodies had been buried in the desert. It is a claim "that may be high, but could still be true", according to Vincent Bugliosi, the lawyer who prosecuted them.
"The Manson murders sounded the death knell for hippies and all they symbolically represented," Bugliosi told the Observer last week. "They closed an era. The 60s, the decade of love, ended on that night, on 9 August 1969."
Kasabian had been living in hiding, under an assumed name, since the trial. The documentary is her first full public interview since her appearance 20 years ago on an American cable chat show. "I could never accept the fact that I was not punished for my involvement," says Kasabian. "I felt then what I feel now, always and forever, that it was a waste of life that had no reason, no rhyme."
Kasabian was a 20-year-old hippy with a 16-month daughter in July 1969 when she met members of Manson's Family and was asked to join their commune at a dilapidated ranch known as Spahn's. There she met Manson, a 32-year-old racist who had already spent more than half his life in jail. About 20 people were living on the ranch, maintained by a life of petty crime and selling drugs.
"Manson - who was uneducated but highly intelligent - had this phenomenal ability to gain control over other people and get them to do terrible things," said Bugliosi. "Eventually he convinced them that he was the second coming: Christ and the Devil all wrapped up in the same person."
Armageddon was coming, Manson claimed as part of his racist, anti-establishment gospel that predicted a black uprising against the state. Once that was over, he and his followers would take over America. Manson named this insurrection Helter Skelter because he believed details of it were revealed in the song of the same name on the Beatles' White Album. "A typical day would be Charlie playing guitar, telling stories, dancing around just being free," Kasabian states in the documentary. In fact, Manson was a talented musician who had met Beach Boys drummer Dennis Wilson. The pair had recorded a few tracks, including one jointly written song "Never Learn Not to Love" that was subsequently recorded by the Beach Boys.
Manson also tried to set up a record contract with the producer Terry Melcher, but the deal had fallen through, a development that was to lead directly to the murders of Tate and her friends. Manson was angry with Melcher for not pursuing the deal and arrived at the latter's house at 10050 Cielo Drive to confront him. However, Melcher had moved on and the house was now occupied by Roman Polanski and Sharon Tate. Manson was told to leave.
"This residence - 10050 Cielo Drive - where Tate and Polanski now lived, came to symbolise the establishment to Charles Manson, particularly the establishment's rejection of him," said Bugliosi. By now, Manson's control over his Family was virtually total, and on 25 July he ordered three of them to go to the house of a drug-dealing acquaintance, Gary Hinman, to demand money. Hinman refused, so they stabbed him to death, using his blood to paint the words "political piggy" on the wall - a grim rehearsal for what would occur at Tate's house.
Then Manson ordered Kasabian, Watson, Atkins and Krenwinkel to drive to Cielo Drive. "I felt excited, special, chosen," recalls Kasabian. "When we arrived at the Tate residence there were lights on the outside, the driveway was lit up. Tex got a rope and wire cutters and cut the telephone wires. There was a car coming so we got down. Tex jumped out and shot the gun four times. He told me to take the wallet from the kid he had shot. I got in the car. There was this person slumped over. I didn't see any blood or anything but I knew he wasn't there."
The others went inside the house. Polanski was in Europe, but Tate was entertaining her friends Wojtek Frykowski, Abigail Folger and Jay Sebring. "You are all going to die," Watson told them after tying them with rope. There was a desperate fight in which all four victims were stabbed to death. A total of 102 wounds were inflicted. As they drove off, Kasabian took the weapons, wiped them clean and dropped them in a ravine.
The next day Manson sent his Family out again to kill and this time, at random, he selected the house of Leno and Rosemary LaBianca, wealthy owners of a chain of grocery stores. Manson broke in and tied them up. Then he left, ordering three of the Family to stab them to death. Manson was involved in at least one more murder - of an acquaintance known as "Shorty" Shea - before his arrest in October. However, it was for his instigation of the slaying of Tate and her friends that he will always be remembered.
"Some people point to the extreme brutality of the murders to explain our enduring interest, but you know we have had killings even more brutal in America,' said Bugliosi. "And yes, the victims were prominent people but they weren't that prominent. But what really gives the Tate killings such durability is the fact they are the most bizarre murders in the recorded annals of American crime. If they had been written as fiction no one would have read it. It would have seemed too far out. After all, the story has just about everything - Beatles lyrics spelled out in blood, quotes from the Bible, and nice kids from average families being persuaded to go on horrible killing sprees.
"The very name Manson has now become a metaphor for evil as a result. The name is synonymous with evil today. Mike Tyson, when he was applying for reinstatement of his boxing licence, admitted he was a bad guy but insisted 'I am not Charlie Manson'. Certainly Manson was different from all other mass murderers. He got others to do his work and he was intelligent and manipulative. Most deranged cult leaders end up getting their followers to commit suicide en masse. Manson got them to carry out mass murders. That is why we remember him."
How the hunt for Linda Kasabian led TV producers to a trailer park
Nick Godwin, the Cineflix executive producer responsible for making Manson, had only an assumed name to go on when his company began its search for Linda Kasabian. "We also had a vague area, somewhere in the west of America, in which she was said to be living," he told the Observer
So his team tracked down each woman with that name and ruled them out one by one - until they had a shortlist of two.
"One was a school librarian in California who was very surprised to be mistaken for an accessory to mass murder," said Godwin. The other was living in near-poverty in a trailer. Her details were checked out and fitted those of Linda Kasabian, but when contacted by the company she refused to cooperate. "None of her friends or neighbours knew about her dramatic past," said Godwin.
It took six months to establish a rapport and to get Linda to tell the story of the four weeks she lived with the Manson Family. Then she was shown a tape of the programme in which actors portray her and other gang members . "Linda had her entire extended family sitting in the trailer for the viewing. It was an emotional experience. Linda's daughter cried throughout the murder scene. But Linda said it accurately portrayed what happened."
She also had no idea that a British band had been named after her. So Cineflix gave her a CD by Kasabian to listen to. She was pleasantly surprised, said Godwin.
As to Linda's role in the conviction of Manson and the rest of his Family, the prosecutor at the trial, Vincent Bugliosi, is in no doubt. "She never asked for immunity from prosecution, but we gave it," he said. "She stood in the witness box for 17 or 18 days and never broke down, despite the incredible pressure she was under. I doubt we would have convicted Manson without her."
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2009/aug/02/charles-manson-linda-kasabian-polanski
Memories of when...
Just sitting here after a long day out and about, thinking about the years past. How things have changed as we all prepare for the Holidays. Kids get older, toys get more expensive, clothing can't be bought without the kids present, (could buy something they just don't like), more is never enough...and so on. Can't it just be simple again, where a Barbie doll or remote controlled car is enough? Where you can go and buy a cute little outfit and they are filled with joy when they open it?
There never seems to be enough time or money to ever make anyone happy anymore.
Kids have been spoiled over the years to want more and expect even more.
My 2 step kids get to have 5 Christmases every year. I think it's a bit much, and every home they go to, they are spoiled rotten. We just can't seem to live up to the expectations that others have set by thier expensive gifts, as they flaunt thier over abundance of money.
Like I said in a previous post,....let's take the Christmas Holiday back to the true meaning, and that is sharing and love. Time spent with loved ones, and wonderful memories being created.
Think about it...what is your greatest memory of a Christmas where there wasn't alot bought? What made it special, and try to recreate that moment with family now.
There never seems to be enough time or money to ever make anyone happy anymore.
Kids have been spoiled over the years to want more and expect even more.
My 2 step kids get to have 5 Christmases every year. I think it's a bit much, and every home they go to, they are spoiled rotten. We just can't seem to live up to the expectations that others have set by thier expensive gifts, as they flaunt thier over abundance of money.
Like I said in a previous post,....let's take the Christmas Holiday back to the true meaning, and that is sharing and love. Time spent with loved ones, and wonderful memories being created.
Think about it...what is your greatest memory of a Christmas where there wasn't alot bought? What made it special, and try to recreate that moment with family now.
Friday, December 11, 2009
Wishes vs. Wants vs. Needs
Have any of you ever wrote out a list of wishes, wants and needs? It would be something to do and consider at some point in one's life. Usually a wish & want list is comprised of mainly things that one just cannot seem to obtain with the income that they currently have. There are times that things will pop up on that list that just so happens to be something that a friend or family member may have that one would "also" like to have. Is it always that one item you "just can't live without" or is it "keeping up with the Jones"?
I rarely if ever have seen a "Needs list" consist of plasma tvs, top of the line car stereos or even Prada accessories.
A needs list is usually comprised of such things as; money to meet bills, food, clothes, auto repairs, home repair (not upgrades & remodelling), health needs, education, and so on.
So while we are writing out our little Christmas lists, let's think of what we need, and put that down. It may even be something that can't be bought, but shared, like a little more time with a friend or family member, homemade dinner instead of eating out, quiet moments with your spouse and so on.
Let's make our "Wish" lists more of a needs list. When such things as XBoxes, WII's, I-Pods and so on or not a need, you could place something on your list that isn't going to make others feel obligated, or feel like crap if they can't afford to get it.
This Christmas, things are going to be very different in many households due to the failing economy, so think of things you could give or ask for that is economically friendly. Let's uncommercialize this holiday, and take it back to the basics. Time spent with family, homemade gifts, pictures with family and friends.
Remember, it's not the cost of the gift, but the thought that the "giver" gave to choosing that gift for you. Love is the Reason for the Season. So I say..."Love more, spend less, share what you already have...YOU."
I rarely if ever have seen a "Needs list" consist of plasma tvs, top of the line car stereos or even Prada accessories.
A needs list is usually comprised of such things as; money to meet bills, food, clothes, auto repairs, home repair (not upgrades & remodelling), health needs, education, and so on.
So while we are writing out our little Christmas lists, let's think of what we need, and put that down. It may even be something that can't be bought, but shared, like a little more time with a friend or family member, homemade dinner instead of eating out, quiet moments with your spouse and so on.
Let's make our "Wish" lists more of a needs list. When such things as XBoxes, WII's, I-Pods and so on or not a need, you could place something on your list that isn't going to make others feel obligated, or feel like crap if they can't afford to get it.
This Christmas, things are going to be very different in many households due to the failing economy, so think of things you could give or ask for that is economically friendly. Let's uncommercialize this holiday, and take it back to the basics. Time spent with family, homemade gifts, pictures with family and friends.
Remember, it's not the cost of the gift, but the thought that the "giver" gave to choosing that gift for you. Love is the Reason for the Season. So I say..."Love more, spend less, share what you already have...YOU."
Games
Ok...so here we go, let's talk about games and why they are so addicting. I still can't figure it out. Is it because we are up to the challenge, trying desperately to reach the next level or are we just gluttons for punishment and frustration?
I can tell ya, as a Facebook fan, and user, it is the "games" that get me. Farmville, Fishville, Roller Coaster Kingdom, Happy Aquarium, Happy Pets and Petville. Yes, I play them all, but how do people go from 0-major bucks, coins etc. do it? Are they going into debt by adding money with real money? And then after the money is spent, what do you have to show for it??? The highest level, prestige amongst the Facebook community, or is it just the thrill of wanting more and more and more??? Questions to ponder as I yes,, head on back to my Facebook games to feed pets, fish, milk cows, goats and collect truffles from pigs. I do have so many other things I could do with my time, but this is just too much fun.
If anyone has thoughts on this craziness, then feel free to post them in the comments. I am real curious if I am the only one that thinks or feels this way about these, oh and other games such as Halo, Call of Duty, Sonic and so on.
I can tell ya, as a Facebook fan, and user, it is the "games" that get me. Farmville, Fishville, Roller Coaster Kingdom, Happy Aquarium, Happy Pets and Petville. Yes, I play them all, but how do people go from 0-major bucks, coins etc. do it? Are they going into debt by adding money with real money? And then after the money is spent, what do you have to show for it??? The highest level, prestige amongst the Facebook community, or is it just the thrill of wanting more and more and more??? Questions to ponder as I yes,, head on back to my Facebook games to feed pets, fish, milk cows, goats and collect truffles from pigs. I do have so many other things I could do with my time, but this is just too much fun.
If anyone has thoughts on this craziness, then feel free to post them in the comments. I am real curious if I am the only one that thinks or feels this way about these, oh and other games such as Halo, Call of Duty, Sonic and so on.
My Profile
Well, I completed my profile on here...Yea me!! I know that it may not look very complete, but if there is something you are curious about, I don't mind you asking, as long as you are not "Hitting" on me, or trying to "Pick Me Up". You men out there know what I mean.
I have no intentions of meeting men online, or straying from my husband. I Love Him Dearly, and am dedicated to him.
Hey, has anyone out there ever get to the point where you are filling out your profile, and your mind goes blank? I mean, heck, some of those questions make you dig and think a bit in an already cluttered mind. It just isn't things that you think about everyday. I mean, movies I like...?...I know what I like, but can't seem to think of the titles when asked. It's totally different when you are talking to someone about "movies" or "books", but it reminds me of test day back in high school. Before you get the paper in front of you, you feel like Einstein....ready to throw that knowlege out like a computer spilling out all it's information at the push of a button....and then...the paper is flipped, and just like hitting the delete button, the mind goes blank. Yes, even you...it does happen to all of us, and you have to admit that when it does, it is frustrating and nerve wracking.
Now, as my evening goes on, I am sure there will be other things I will want to talk about or get off my chest. There may even be some tidbit of ideas thrown in there. It's just a little walk through my mind and thoughts.
Oh by the way...I am really gonna miss Diane Sawyer on Good Morning America. I wish her all the best as she goes on to the night time news.
I have no intentions of meeting men online, or straying from my husband. I Love Him Dearly, and am dedicated to him.
Hey, has anyone out there ever get to the point where you are filling out your profile, and your mind goes blank? I mean, heck, some of those questions make you dig and think a bit in an already cluttered mind. It just isn't things that you think about everyday. I mean, movies I like...?...I know what I like, but can't seem to think of the titles when asked. It's totally different when you are talking to someone about "movies" or "books", but it reminds me of test day back in high school. Before you get the paper in front of you, you feel like Einstein....ready to throw that knowlege out like a computer spilling out all it's information at the push of a button....and then...the paper is flipped, and just like hitting the delete button, the mind goes blank. Yes, even you...it does happen to all of us, and you have to admit that when it does, it is frustrating and nerve wracking.
Now, as my evening goes on, I am sure there will be other things I will want to talk about or get off my chest. There may even be some tidbit of ideas thrown in there. It's just a little walk through my mind and thoughts.
Oh by the way...I am really gonna miss Diane Sawyer on Good Morning America. I wish her all the best as she goes on to the night time news.
Friday & Frustrated
Well, here it is...Friday, and I am frustrated. There is so much I want to do, but am limited at this time by circumstances and finances. Would it be worth it to start a floral business, or free-lance photography? Of course either requires time and energy, but when you are doing something you love and enjoy, you jump out of bed to do it...right?
Would it be worth the risk?
There are a lot of thoughts I will share as time goes on, but fear not, sometimes I am just blowing off steam...and other times moments of joy, frustration or just the babblings of a mother/wife/woman who is killing time, talking to the computer instead of the 4 walls...lol...at least there are times when I can get a response from the computer, or even people at the other end of this "cyber world".
Would it be worth the risk?
There are a lot of thoughts I will share as time goes on, but fear not, sometimes I am just blowing off steam...and other times moments of joy, frustration or just the babblings of a mother/wife/woman who is killing time, talking to the computer instead of the 4 walls...lol...at least there are times when I can get a response from the computer, or even people at the other end of this "cyber world".
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